This is a letter I wrote for a woman I was seeing for 7 months. I realized that if the way we perceive each other is different, there is no way we can continue to walk the same path. I’ve censored her name in below letter…
Dear S****
We’ve been on this journey for a while now and I’ll be the first to say we’ve had some great times. You are 1 amazing woman S****. I want to honestly say that you have brought light to my life. Your kind spirit, positive energy, caring, loving, fun, and authentic nature is something I really admire about you. There is no word in the English dictionary that can explain what you mean to me. You are a 1 in million type of woman. Although we’ve shared so much with each other, there are certain moments that I will never forget. I will never forget our first date, going on the Ferris wheel ride, the picnics we had, holding you close to me, watching movies together, going to that magic show, planning and celebrating Valentine’s Day, bowling with my family and friends, having deep conversations with you about life, love, family, and so much more.
The main reason I approached you, took you out on dates and had these amazing conversations with you, was to genuinely get to know you and to potentially build something more than just a platonic friendship. Whenever we spent time together, I felt the connection between us grew stronger, because it allows us to understand each other a little bit more. You seem to be a loyal, attractive, funny, authentic, intelligent, and respectful woman. Based on all these qualities, I wanted to build something with you. I honestly wanted to see where this could go.
We recently had a conversation, and you gave me a clear picture of the type of connection that you see between us. I really appreciate you being honest with me. Your honesty has helped me realize the path I should take moving forward and I should be honest with myself as well. I started to go through the mental photo album of all the things we’ve done and experienced together. As you know we’ve been spending a great deal of time with each other over the past several months. 7 months filled with amazing moments and memories that I will never forget. Within these 7 months, I’ve grown closer to you, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I also feel like I can talk to you about anything, and you will always be there to listen.
I want to be honest with you and let you know; I haven’t really had many attractive platonic female friends in my life. Based on my experience, if a woman says she sees me as a friend, and I see her as more than a friend, it makes me question if I should continue seeing her. I always strive to be clear in my intentions when I meet and invest time into any woman. Regarding friendship I truly believe, if 2 people have different perspectives of how they view each other, I believe there is no way they can continue to walk the same path. There are some guys who are ok with being platonic friends with attractive women for a lifetime, but for me, I just see the world differently.
One thing I want you to understand about me is that when I like a woman there is a reason, I spend time with that woman. The reason is that I see something special in her. As soon as I realize this, I create an experience that she’s going to never forget. The time that I invest, experiences we share together, conversations, making her feel special, and bringing her into my world is something I don’t do for a lot of women. So, the experience is exclusive and unique for her and her alone because I see her as so much more than a friend.
One thing I have realized about myself is that I’m only interested in being friends with a woman in the pursuit of a relationship, within the context of a relationship, who have chemistry with me or are physically attracted to me. The last thing I want to do is confuse a woman with my intentions when I invest my time and attention into her. I just do not see myself suppressing prolonged authentic feelings I have for women that I’m attracted to only to settle for friendship at the end. There are certain things that can only be expressed physically and if that’s constantly being restricted, I can’t really be myself. I just don’t feel comfortable investing any money, energy, attention, or time into a woman who doesn’t have chemistry with me. It’s just not who I am. I just cannot lie to myself. Although I value our friendship greatly, I’m ultimately looking for the other half, which is a genuine display of affection. I just don’t want to continue chasing a dream that will never come true.
I really appreciate you, S****, but right now I only want to focus on women who are interested in building relationships and who have chemistry with me. If I told you I wanted to be platonic friends with you, I’d be lying to you. I’d only be hanging out with you in hopes that 1 day, you would change your mind about showing affection. And at that point, I would be manipulating you. And that’s not good for me or for you, so I’d rather just be honest with you and just say no. I just don’t want a platonic female friend right now. I want you to listen to this closely S**** as I say this…. I’m attracted to you and that’s never going to change, and I’m going to stay attracted to you, so if me and you were to hang out as platonic friends, I’m probably going to be hitting on you, I’m probably going to be flirting with you and you would have to be ok and receptive to that because I want to be honest with you. With that being said I just want to say thank you for everything. If you ever change your mind about being more than platonic friends just let me know, you have my number. If not, no problem at all.
In closing, I just want to say this. Please do me a favor and continue to shine like the sun and spread joy to everyone you meet. I just want you to be happy. You are a woman with a heart of gold, a bright personality, vibrant, funny, beautiful, and a sweet woman that any guy would be lucky to have. From the bottom of my heart, one thing I loved about you is that your beauty is perfectly combined with your amazing soul. Wishing you all the best in future relationships, friendships, and endeavors. I’ll never forget you.
MK Blog 